Lorelai: I don't know what to do. I moved 30 miles away from my parents for a reason. Those 30 miles act as a buffer, so that when my mother says something that makes me want to kill her, I have to drive 30 miles to do it. Ten miles in, I usually calm down or I get hungry or I pass a mall. Something prevents me from actually killing her. That buffer is my mother's best friend. Take the buffer away, and you got Nancy Grace camping out at Miss Patty's lawn for a month.