Quote from Luke in Luke Can See Her Face
Luke: Oh, Jess, come on. You did this completely wrong. Open two-way communication is the foundation of love, and you cut that off. I had this friend - let's call him Phillip - who thought expressing intimacy was a favor to his partner, but expressions of intimacy should be given freely and frequently. He loved Judy, but he used his love as a bargaining tool. Jess: Who the hell is Judy? Luke: Phillip's wife. We call her Judy. Jess: I wasn't bargaining. Luke: You were bargaining. You had expectations out of line with what you deserved. You don't nurture. Jess: Where are you getting this junk? Luke: Life. I've lived. Jess: What, in a Bette Midler movie? Luke: I'm just trying to help you out.