Quote from Emily in I Can't Get Started
Emily: The wedding is in one week? Lorelai: Yes. Emily: So this is a pity invite? Lorelai: A what? Emily: Someone canceled at the last minute and rather than being left with two empty seats Sookie asked you to ask us. How nice. Lorelai: That's not what happened. Emily: No, that's quite all right. Far be it for me to be invited with the first batch of actual wanted guests. This is just fine. Lorelai: Mom, it's not a pity invite. She really wants you to come. Emily: Is that so? Lorelai: Yes, that's so.