Quote from Lorelai in Lorelai's First Cotillion
Lorelai: Then they didn't react. Not one bit. It's almost like the absence of their reaction was worse than any freak-out they could have had. Rory: Okay. Sure. Lorelai: Then I thought, "Why? Why do I care if they freak out? I mean, what do I get out of it?" And then I thought, "Maybe their freak-outs are like some kind of compass for me, you know, like, I know I'm doing what I want to do if it freaks them out." And then I thought, "What if I don't want to do what I want to do because I want to do it, but because they don't want me to?" Rory: Huh? Lorelai: I mean, what if I don't like what I like because I like it, but because my mother doesn't like it and doesn't want me to like it? What if I don't actually like the music that I like or the movies or the clothes or the men? What if I don't like what I seem to like? Rory: Ah, hence the Pop-Tart.