Quote from Phoebe in The One with the Ring
Phoebe: So how are things going with Paul?
Rachel: Good. Although, you know, he's a private guy. I wish I could get him to open up. Share some feelings.
Phoebe: That's easy. You just have to think of him as a jar of pickles that won't open.
Rachel: So what are you saying? I should run him under hot water and bang his head against a table?
Phoebe: No, that's what you do when you want to get the truth out of someone.