Quote from Rachel in The One Where Ross Moves In
Monica: So I guess we won't be warming his house. Rachel: Okay. All right, I see what he's doing. He's not asking me out because he wants me to ask him out. Monica: And you're not going to do that. Rachel: That's right. Because that would give him the control. So now he comes up with this "I've got a party" thing, you know, trying to get me hint around for an invitation. Blew up in his face, didn't it? Monica: So there is no party? Rachel: Oh, no there's a party. There's a party. But the power, that is still up for grabs. You follow me? Monica: I think so. So he's not inviting you to his party because he likes you? Rachel: Exactly.